20 Apr 10 Tips for a Successful Marriage
1) Ability to Learn –
Be a lifelong learner. If both of you are willing to learn from your mistakes and the challenges in your relationship, you will thrive as individuals and as a couple.
2) Appreciate each other –
Right before going to sleep, share a few things that you appreciate about each other. It could be something you did that day or a quality (like “I love how honest you are with me”) you value. Focus on what you love and appreciate about each other and you will find more to love and appreciate about each other and your successful marriage
3) Humility –
We all have weaknesses and relationships always reveal these faults quicker than anything else on earth. An essential building block of a healthy marriage is the ability to admit that you are not perfect, that you will make mistakes, and that you will need forgiveness. Holding an attitude of superiority over your partner will bring about resentment and will prevent your relationship from moving forward.
4) Time –
Relationships don’t work without time investment. Never have, never will. Any successful relationship requires intentional, quality time together. And quality time rarely happens when quantity time is absent.
The relationship with your spouse should be the most intimate and deep relationship you have. Therefore, it is going to require more time than any other relationship. If possible, set aside time each day for your spouse
5). Honesty and Trust – Honesty and trust become the foundation for everything in a successful marriage. But unlike most of the other essentials on this list, trust takes time. You can become selfless, committed, or patient in a moment, but trust always takes time. Be honest to your partner for eg : Have total access and openness of passwords to all electronic devices owned by the two of you. Give your spouse complete access at any time to your social media accounts and be sure they have your password. Honesty is the main factor that will build up the trust towards each other.
6) Communication – Healthy marriage partners communicate as much as possible. Couples certainly discuss kids’ schedules, grocery lists, and utility bills. But they don’t stop there. They also need to communicate hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties. They don’t just discuss the changes that are taking place in the kid’s life, they also discuss the changes that are taking place in their own hearts and souls.
This essential key cannot be overlooked because honest, forthright communication becomes the foundation for so many other things on this list: commitment, patience, and trust—just to name a few.
7) Know the Little things about each other –
Does he have a big meeting? Is she dreading a phone call to an important client? Is she having lunch with an old friend? Talking about the daily details of your lives is just as important as sharing hopes, dreams, and fears, so asking about those details is a great way to build understanding and rapport. And don’t forget to ask how that meeting, phone call, or lunch turned out. Your thoughtfulness will make your partner feel loved and cared for.
8) Treat your spouse with respect and admiration in public –
Whether you’re at a party, a business meeting, or just strolling down the street, give him or her subtle signals of your connection. Hold his hand. Smile at her. Put your arm around her. And never, ever, make fun of your partner in public.
9) Share a hobby –
Find an activity both of you enjoy, and participate in it together. Try gardening, attending classes, hiking, or visiting art shows. If your partner hasn’t expressed interest yet, sneakily ask for help watering your plants, or tell your spouse a friend gave you tickets to an event. Once your partner gets involved once, he or she might want to do it more regularly. Find a physical activity you both enjoy and exercise together to make your bodies and marriage healthier.
10) Learn how to ask nicely –
You want him to hang a shelf? Mow the lawn? Asking her to throw in a load of laundry? Make sure you ask, rather than demand. We all tend to respond better to requests than orders. For example, instead of saying, “You should…,” say, “Could you…?” And instead of saying, “Why didn’t you…?” say, “Next time it would help me if you could try to…”
It is when a couple resolve to sink or swim with each other that they can bring out the best in them. Couples who bring out the best in them for their spouses and their marriages without reservation always live a happier and healthier marriage relationship.